But what about me?Is it possible to go one day without dealing with the survivors issues?Will we ever make love again?Will the survivor love me in the end?How do I know if I should throw in the towel?Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partnersgirlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and loverstrying … to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. Addressing partners most important questions, Allies in Healing covers: The Basicsanswers common questions about sexual abuse. Allies in Healingintroduces key concepts of working and growing together. My Needs and Feelingsteaches partners to recognize, value, and express their own needs. Dealing with Crisisincludes strategies for handling suicidal feelings, regression, and hopelessness. Intimacy and Communicationoffers practical advice on dealing with distancing, control, trust, and fighting. Sexprovides guidelines for coping with flashbacks, lack of desire, differences in sexual needs, and frustration. Family lssuessuggests a range of ideas for interacting with the survivors family. Partners Storiesexplores the struggles, triumphs, and courage of eight partners.